Friday, August 20, 2010

A whole lot of nothing

Well since it has been summer and extrememly hot we have not been doing anything, honestly!! I know I posted on here about getting the book Manager's of their Chores but I due to another top priority I had to put that book on hold and read "Strong Willed Children" and "Shepherding Their Hearts" I think is the name of the last one but not totally sure. I know that books do not solve everything nor do I follow them to a T either but I am hoping to gain some insight. The main book I read is the Bible which has the teachings for raising children but there other books are Bible based so I am hoping to glean some more. I can remember very vividly having a conversation with Becky about "strong willed" children and I remember saying to her there is no such thing as a strong willed child just a disobedient child..... Oh why oh why did I not keep my BIG MOUTH SHUT? So along comes Abby who is a wonderful child, when she wants to be and when she does not want to be she challenges every form of authority that comes near her. At first I thought oh my word she is so disodedient and that was the only thing wrong with her. Don't get me wrong I still believe that strong willed children are just disobedient children but I also have found that in my case it is not just wanting to disobey, it goes much deeper than that. So my good friend Angela just happened to be here one day and witnessed one of Abby's "attacks" and willful behavior. I broke down crying becuase I did not understand what I was doing wrong in raising her. After talking awhile Angela told me about a book that Dr Dobbson had written call "Strong Willed Children" so of course I ordered it right away. AS I began to read the testimonies of all the mothers of strong willed children I felt like i was reading mine and Abby's life. So I felt the Lord had allowed Angela to be here to witness Abby's sometimes strong willed behavior and I am thankful, I had been praying and crying for the Lord to please show me what I could do that would help her. Becuase left to her own demise Abby will end up a very angry adult. So if you have or think you might have a strong willed child I encourage you to read this book. I have not finished it, it takes me a very LONG time to finish a book, but I am learning things. And hopefully will see a change in Abby, for the better. I am reading it along with Shepherding their hearts so I think we will make some headway, or at least I am hoping. So if you think of me or Abby I would really appreciate you saying a prayer for us as we go through this together and try to do better. She is a great kid don't get me wrong and has a lot of great qualities but this just happens to be her weakness. And of course being the baby does not help at all ☻ I have put the girls school room together and we are hoping to start school come Monday, the girls have really been missing it and I love the structure that it adds to our day. I am working on getting a schedule together for us too. I have finally started doing weekly meal planners which is a big deal for me!! But it has ended up saving me about $20.00 every time I go to the grocery store so that is nice. I will post pics of our school room, once I take them!! You can expect them next month, LOL!!!

1 comment:

  1. One good thing about a child with a strong will. . .if you get that will in agreement with the will of the Lord, you'll have a child who will stand for Christ without bowing to the image. Lord, help us lead the way.